Do you struggle with avoiding the conversations you need to have in your relationship?
Do you find yourself feeling resentful of your spouse for past behaviour?
Are you someone who generally avoids conflict and is this pattern finally caught up with you?
Are you holding onto resentment, disappointment or anger from the past?
Solutions are closer than you think
- Experience greater ease, confidence and satisfaction in your relationship when it comes to having what you consider the difficult conversations.
- You will be freed up and empowered to finally approach the conversations that really matter and that contribute to greater harmony with your loved ones.
- By freeing up your energy, you will have that much more vitality and optimism when it comes to working through the normal conflict that every relationship goes through. With time and practice, you will also reach a point.
Hello, I'm Jack Lafleur
After decades of learning, struggle and doing my own inner work as a human being and extensive training as a clinician, I consider myself a teacher and a fellow traveller to those who come to me for help. “The Relationship Sensei” is an integration of two worlds I have devoted my life to. As a fourth degree black belt and martial artist, I bring the qualities of discipline, being present, self reflection, perseverance, standing one’s ground and living with spine. As a clinician, I bring the qualities of sensitivity, empathy, compassion, emotional and intuitive intelligence, safety and living from the heart. I feel both are needed on this human journey towards wholeness and authenticity.
Relational recovery requires all of these qualities we humans possess. In what we consider the feminine and the masculine in ourselves. To be whole is to have access to all of these qualities when we need them or when the situation or circumstances call for them.
How I've Helped Other Couples
I worked with a couple recently, “Albert & Rachel”*, who were having great difficulty addressing issues surrounding physical and sexual intimacy.
This couple had become stuck in a negative pattern of attacking each other and emotional withdrawal for years.
What had not been named and fully acknowledged and what had taken over this relationship was trauma
- Rachel had experienced childhood sexual abuse which had never really been dealt with and so by helping Rachel to name and acknowledge her traumatic past, it began the slow process of healing and recovery
- This process then led to creating more safety in having conversations that were being avoided
- Albert felt that he had been walking on eggshells with Rachel and as a result had emotionally withdrawn as a way of coping
- Finally after a lot of work and telling the truth, Rachel learned to accept and work with her trauma and Albert learned how to be more emotionally available and present
A big part of their recovery as a couple was due to the application of the Inarguable Method
*Names were changed to protect identities
